Does your child make you so mad that you want to scream?
by Marianne Clyde, LMFT (aka MommyZen)
Do you feel that it takes every ounce of self control to keep from yelling, smacking, punishing or losing your cool your child?
Does it feel like your kid is trying to drive you crazy on purpose?
Are you annoyed that you have to repeat things?
Do you get furious when he ignores you?
Does she get defiant so often that you feel like giving up?
Have you ever said anything or done anything to your child in anger that you regret?
That is where the 10 essential principles of peaceful parenting come in. It doesn’t have to be that way. What if I told you that you could be in total control of your temper, your actions, and feelings of helplessness? Wouldn’t that be every parents dream?
Well, it is possible.
So often we try to control our children and end up walking away feeling like a failure. What if I told you that you cannot control your child and that it would be better to stop trying?
Yes, when your children are small, you are able to physically restrain or control your child in some ways. But if control is your goal and your parenting technique, you will actually end up defeating your ultimate purpose in a few short years when your child begins to figure out other ways to control you. And you are setting the stage for a lifetime of power struggles, mistrust, passive-aggressive behavior, conflict, and probably severing of relationships.
Would you like to learn a new way? Would it make more sense to parent in a way that you feel empowered, your kids feels heard and understood, you feel calm and in control without power struggles, and you create a bond with your child that lasts a lifetime?
Once your child gets physically bigger than you, you will no longer be able to physically control him, so you might as well start as soon as you can to learn to control yourself. Learn how to build your personal sense of value and respect. Learn how to seek to understand your child and how to effectively communicate with him. Learn to gain the cooperation and respect you desire by following 10 simple principles every day. These are the 10 essential principles in my book, Peaceful parenting: 10 Essential Principles.
I offer a parenting course on Curious.com that can lead you to a calmer household in less than 30 days. All you have to do is get the book, enroll in the class and follow the workbook (available free on the site). Fifteen minutes a day is all it takes. Don’t waste another minute gritting your teeth. Just breathe….